Trans Day of Remembrance on 20 November is a day to remember how many of our trans siblings we have lost year after year to transphobic violence.
It is a day for the trans community when we are reminded that we live in a world where in some countries we are still killed for something that is not hurting these perpetrators’ lives – just living our lives as genuinely as freely as we want.
Of course, I think a lot of these deaths could have being avoided if people were educated correctly on the trans community, breaking the stigma of toxic masculinity and normalising being affectionate and loving trans and gender diverse people.
I also think that a lot of these deaths could have been avoided if the media actually followed and covered more of the cases so that these perpetrators can be brought to justice and to avoid more unnecessary deaths in and out of the trans community.
Though it is a sad day to remember the fallen, it is also a day that has given the trans community a platform where we can not just talk about transphobia and violence but also educate the mainstream about other important topics.
These topics include pronouns and misgendering and why to us are pronouns so important – because gender is an identity, and identity in itself is such a hugely important part of life.
It is who we are, and we all want to be known and seen in the public eye as how we see ourselves.
Just like anything in life, with darkness there is always a light.
On Trans Day of Remembrance, I only pray that we can teach our young people to love freely and break negative stigmas.
It’s 2020, and we are doing good in the trans community, but let’s get better.
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